kids identifying as asexual

kids identifying as asexual

kids shouldn't be identifying as asexual.
(tw: r*pe n other types of unconsented nsfw actions)

Definition of Asexuality (Merriam-Webster): not involving, involved with, or relating to sex: devoid of sexuality ; not having sexual feelings toward others: not experiencing sexual desire or attraction

this sounds like an absolute no-brainer but a lot of people still don't understand the issues with this and are still arguing that it's totally okay when it's not because:

1. kids under 14-15 years of age shouldn't be worried about sex
2. they shouldn't be sharing their personal relationship to sex to others (especially not fuckin' strangers)
3. forcing a label onto yourself that tells others that you aren't sexually attracted to others at such a young age is difficult to shake off if and when you find out that you actually aren't ace as you get older

somebody tried arguing that kids are able to identify as asexual, their points being:
"i know multiple people who lost their virginity very young so if someone who is under the age of 10 is able to decide to lose their virginity then someone under the age of 16 is able to decide whether or not they want to have sex"
"i'm living proof and have been for the past 5 years."

and in response to that... i freaked out. i didn't curse them out for sharing that sort of personal information or anything but i was genuinely upset that that's why they supported their stance on the topic.

if a kid were to be "hypersexual" or "asexual" even before puberty, it suggests that something bad happened to them (such as rape, molestation, sexual assault/abuse, etc.) or that they had a way too early exposure to pornography/sex. kids don't (and shouldn't) like the idea of sex. it should be presented to them as something that they shouldn't be doing until they're way older.
and yes, i have considered kids being curious because of what the person brought up in the discussion. kids losing their virginities before they are 15-16yrs. a kid who is 10yrs or younger is unable to properly consent, even if it's with another kid the same age.

it is out of pure curiousity and not an actual sexual urge because they haven't reached that point of puberty (in that situation, they haven't even started puberty).

It's his Dema Dick.

Re: kids identifying as asexual

i've been really uncomfortable with people supporting young kids identifying as ace because it's weird to be like "yes i allow young children to discover themselves in terms of sexual relationships."

the only time a kid should be looking into asexuality is roughly 15-16 with 14 being an exception. at that point, kids know about sex, are learning about sex education, and even having sex with other consenting 15-16yo kids.

adults shouldn't be supporting children like this. it's not right. 

It's his Dema Dick.

Re: kids identifying as asexual

honestly i rly agree with most of this but ?? puberyty before age 10 is common,, like,,,, i literally started puberty at age 8 in tons of kids also did so if u wanna base it off of puberty thast not a solid argument, i think its better to base it off a general maturity, kids dont understand life and general n they shouldnt make big decisions like c o n s e nt

- wormboy, vincent

Re: kids identifying as asexual

i completely agree. exposing your sexual attraction (or lack thereof) can be dangerous, due to pedophiles and the sort. i honestly think labeling yourself as asexual at a young age, even if you've gone through puberty, is very toxic. i think you should wait until 14 to consider it, because sexual attraction doesn't develop fully until 16 for most people.